Many parents think about the adults their children will grow up to be. Some wonder what college they’ll attend, if any, while others may wonder when they’ll have children of their own and likely hope it doesn’t happen while their child is still living under their roof.
Parents often consider when their kids will get married and how married life will treat them. In November 2023, a TikTok user named Laura Danger (@thatdatrnchat) showed how one mom was already planning on her 11-year-old son’s wife being his housemaid.
On Nov. 6, Laura reposted a video of a mom who addressed her “future daughter-in-law” on camera. Although her son isn’t even a teenager yet, the mom said marriage would “be here before you know it” and wanted his future love interest to know what she was getting herself into.
The mom shared that her son habitually puts his clothes in a laundry hamper with the clothes inside out. After years of turning her son’s clothes inside out for him, the mom had an “aha” moment and decided she didn’t want her future daughter-in-law to “spend her entire marriage” doing the same thing. So, to help a fellow woman out, the mom started returning her son’s clean clothes to him inside out and left them there for him to sort out on his own.
While the mom likely had good intentions, Laura at @thatdarnchat wrote that she was “sooo close” but no cigar. In the middle of the mom’s post, Laura, who was shown reacting to the video, interrupted the mom. She then went back to where the mom said she didn’t want her daughter-in-law putting her son’s clothes the right way during her marriage and suggested the mom just “teach him how to do it” on his own.
Laura also said a better option would be for her son to learn how to do his laundry from a male figure in his life if he has one. The content creator then shared a screenshot of a report that says boys often have “more leisure time” than their female counterparts, and most of the girls’ leisure time is spent doing double the amount of housework, volunteering, and errands, in addition to doing just as much paid work as the boys.
Laura added that the expectation of girls to do more work in the household significantly affects “people’s opportunities” in the future while also allowing boys to grow up as men who can’t do tasks like laundry. She then told the mom to trust that her son is “capable” of taking care of himself without another woman’s assistance.
“If you don’t want his future spouse spending their time doing his laundry, then don’t teach him that it’s his future spouse’s responsibility,” Laura said. “He’s capable. Treat him that way.”
