Abusive behaviors occur in clusters, and isolated incidents should not be taken into consideration. When dealing with someone with abusive tendencies, it is imperative to establish boundaries.
Most of the behaviors shown by abusers have been linked to a traumatic childhood, learned behaviors, and a generally tricky life.
Although the abusers do not seek out therapy themselves, the ones that do usually go to therapy because people close to them force them to do so. People with abusive behavior require therapy with an experienced and skilled therapist to have a happy and fulfilling life.
In any case, if you are struggling with an abusive relationship or have experienced abuse, the safest thing to do is to see a therapist and figure out what you might do to live a normal life or to get out of the relationship.
If you are in a highly abusive relationship, you should get out of it if there’s still a chance.
(Disclaimer: This article is to raise awareness and should not be used for diagnosis.)
